This is a detailed account of the events that took place up to the birth of our sweet little Carter this weekend. I've had a lot of people ask questions about what happened, so here it is! It's a little lengthy and there are no pictures, but it describes what happened this weekend that eventually resulted in the early birth of our son. I hope this answers some questions! And pictures will come this week!
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Tyson, Brycen, and I spent a great weekend in Idaho Falls for Memorial Day. We enjoyed a lot of family time with fun bbq’s and lots of pictures. I was feeling super uncomfortable and my stomach felt so tight for how far along I was (31 weeks at the time). I could feel the baby’s feet up in my ribs and I was just burning. I was having a hard time sitting in certain places.
Tyson got home safely and went to work the next day. Brycen and I woke up that same morning and got ready to go to the zoo with Mom, Amber and Tayen, and Britney and Boston. We met them at the entrance and spent the rest of our morning there enjoying the monkeys, lions, and all the other fun animals. I pushed Brycen around in his stroller a little bit but felt fine. When we got to the steeper walkway up to the penguins I decided to go for it. I made the trek up there, pushing my 30-pound toddler in his stroller and feeling the burn in my calves. I was a little winded, but otherwise felt fine. We enjoyed the rest of the zoo then left to have lunch at Carino’s.
The pains continued throughout the evening, some a lot worse than others. I was getting a little worried but decided to wait it out through the night to see if things got any better. I went to bed at about 10:45 and decided not to time any of the pains. By 12:45 am I was in a lot of pain and decided to time the pains again. My doctor here had told me at multiple appointments that if I was feeling contractions and had more than six in an hour for two hours I should come in and get checked. I was definitely feeling at least six an hour for two hours. But I wasn’t sure if they were contractions or not because I wasn’t feeling any pain in any place but my lower back. My stomach stayed soft and everything. I still felt very worried as the pain got worse. At 3 am I decided to get in the shower and get my suitcase packed. I had a feeling that I needed to get back to Ogden just in case things got worse-or if I went to get checked somewhere and I happened to go into labor. I needed to get back home to Ogden and be closer to my doctor and hospital.
I rescheduled my doctor appointment for the next morning and brought my mom with me for a second set of ears. I met with my doctor and a routine check-up continued. We talked about not being able to get a prescription for any pain medication and I asked her questions about how I was feeling. I explained the super sharp pains I was feeling and how they felt like the back labor I felt with Brycen. She assured me that I wasn’t having contractions and that what I was feeling was fetal movements. She told me that sometimes the fetal movements are just painful and every pregnancy is different. I still felt like it was something else going on, but she wasn’t concerned at all about it. She continued to assure me that nothing was going on with me and that sadly I was just having a rough pregnancy. When she checked my stomach, she noticed how big the baby seemed to be. I mentioned to her what the nurses said about the baby being breech and she wasn’t concerned. She said even if he was breech that it wasn’t a big deal at this point. The doctor left us confident that we had nothing to worry about but also sorry that there wasn’t anything we could do. I had blood work done after she left to test my platelet count and iron levels. Mom and I left the appointment feeling like we had no reason to worry about what was going on, and possibly Brycen and I could go back to Idaho with her and Amber to spend the week. I was so excited about that idea!
We had a relaxing couple of days watching movies and eating popcorn and M&M’s. I continued to have these “fetal movement” pains but didn’t think much of them because of what the doctor said. On Friday night we rented “Thor” and watched it after Brycen went to bed. The pains I had started getting worse and I decided to time them. However, I was very confused because I wasn’t sure if I should even bother with timing them. They felt nothing like what my doctor and the nurse said a contraction would feel like so I didn’t know what to do. All I knew is that they were painful. I took a bathroom break partway through the movie and ended up passing my mucus plug. I was calm but kind of freaking out in my mind. It seemed too early to pass it. I passed it at 34 weeks with Brycen and he was born exactly a week later. I went out to the living room and let everyone know what had happened. They seemed alarmed and I decided to go look online to see what others were saying about this. There were multiple women how passed theirs between 28 and 32 weeks and ended up carrying their babies to full term. Others weren’t quite that lucky but still carried till around 36 weeks. I decided to call my doctor just to be sure. It was about 10:45 that evening when I talked to her (she was the on-call doctor that night). I asked her my questions and she seemed irritated and short with me. She asked me a whole bunch of questions (Did your water break? Is your stomach tightening? Are you bleeding? etc) and told me that mucus during pregnancy is normal. I told her about how painful my back pains were and she kept reminding me that my fetal fibronectin was negative, meaning no baby in two weeks, and what I was feeling was just pregnancy and ligament pains. She reminded me what contractions would feel like as well. I got off the phone feeling like I had just bugged her. She didn’t pay much attention to what I was telling her and I felt like what I was telling her wasn’t that big of a deal. But if I felt like I needed to be checked I needed to go to Labor and Delivery at the hospital.
I went to bed that night and hardly slept. I was in pain almost the entire night and lying on my side did nothing to fix the problem. The pains continued through the morning and seemed to get worse. Mom, Amber, and Tyson were all concerned about what was going on. There was even one point where Amber read through a list she found online and asked me a bunch of questions. I answered all of them, and it ended up being symptoms of pre-term labor. I matched almost all of the symptoms. Tyson and I decided to go to the hospital again to make sure everything was ok. I dressed in the gown and got hooked up to the bands. The pains continued and I was anxious to see if they showed up on the monitor. The line was barely moving and I felt frustrated. The nurse checked me and it was so painful. It was much more painful than before. Sure enough, my cervix was still closed and I was not progressing. The nurse felt bad for me because she knew I was in pain. And again I was denied anything for the pain. I cried in frustration. She reviewed my discharge papers and talked to me about what to watch for when having contractions. She told me my stomach would feel like a basketball and get super tight. She also said that the baby could be stretching or sitting on a nerve, causing the pain I was feeling. She apologized for not being able to give us more information or much help and sent us on our way. We left and I struggled to the car in pain. I felt frustrated and cried. The pains I was having didn’t feel like painful fetal movements or ligament pains like everyone was saying. And if I wasn’t in labor, I just wanted some relief! The thought of going through this for 8 more weeks was painful to think about.
And the latest: Tyson's parents came to Utah on Saturday after they found out we were having a baby. They stayed over night then took Brycen home to Idaho to stay with them till Wednesday. He'll be going with my family on Wednesday until Sunday when my mom and Amber bring him back to Utah. In the meantime, Tyson and I have been able to focus our time on Carter and I'll be using that extra time to heal and take it easy before Brycen comes home. The nicu doesn't allow kids Brycen's age inside so Brycen will have to wait till Carter comes home before he gets to meet him. But he will get to watch him on the web cam so that will be fun for him!
Thank you to all of you who have called, sent text messages, Facebook messages, e-mails, etc. asking how we're doing and sending us your love! We really appreciate all of you. We can feel all of the prayers that have come our way and we are so grateful for every last one of you.